What I Wish Someone Told Me Before
Updated: Apr 4, 2022
In 6 months, I’ll be 21. Even writing that number made my stomach drop. How can this be possible? On one hand, I feel like a kid asking, “why am I not being supervised?” But on the other hand, I feel like an old sage sharing her wisdom to the younglings gathered around a campfire. How I am to find balance between these two separate feelings on the spectrum, I have no idea. But for a moment, I will step into the shoes of my inner crone and share some wisdom I’ve learned in my limited years. These are all the things I wish someone told me before about spirituality and life.
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Spiritual Awakenings Are Not One-Time Events
Spiritual awakenings are the rite of passage everyone on their spiritual journey experiences. It can happen at any time and can be provoked by any event. This universal experience is portrayed as something that happens only once, it is terribly dramatic, then you come out of it like a beautiful butterfly knowing all of the intricacies of the Universe. Sorry, little butterfly but this is not reality. Spiritual awakenings are never one-time events. They are continuous throughout our entire lives. As we constantly evolve, we are also constantly going through various spiritual awakenings. This is because our life revolves around cycles. There is a beginning, middle, and end. And as we come to an end, there is a new beginning, and so the cycle repeats. Every new cycle, we learn or release something. Although we might notice that each cycle becomes less apparent in our lives, they are still the backbone of the spiritual experience. Growing is unfortunately a never-ending process but I can promise that with time, each lesson and release gets easier.
Healing Is Not Linear
We often see healing as a clear-cut path that goes from unhealed, doing the work, to healed. With this process in mind, we feel that it's a struggle to get to that fully 'healed' status. But the truth is, the part of this process that is in fact a struggle is not the work itself but our mindset. We tell ourselves that healing is linear when it’s not. The path of healing is a winding road that goes all over the place before you reach the badge of honor of ‘healed’. On this journey you go up, down, sideways, diagonal, upside down, and just about any other possible direction. This is normal. And this is important to know. You might feel like you’re going backward but every step you take is one step closer to where you are meant to be. This is not a race. There is no giant clock. There are no booby traps. You’re safe to heal at your own pace.
You Will Always Be Leveling Up
Like I mentioned in the previous point, every step you take is a step in the right direction. You might feel as though it could be the wrong move or you just ended up where you’ve always been but you’re making process! Leveling up is not always a drastic change that is seen in the physical world. It’s not always better the skin, the bigger house, or the better paying job. Leveling up could instead look like responding in a different way than you would have a year ago, setting boundaries, or pushing yourself out of your comfort zone more often. All of this work is crucial! You are always making progress.
Sometimes Triggers Only Come Up To Congratulate You On Your Progress
Have you ever been doing so well on your healing journey- you’re letting go, learning to trust, learning to process in a healthy way then BAM you get hit with a trigger? It feels so frustrating when this happens because it feels like all your hard work has been a waste. Or has it? I’ve learned over the years that, yes, some things resurface, such as a trigger, to remind us of the work that needs to be done. But it can also be there to remind you of how far you’ve come. Sometimes we don’t have to do anything about the trigger except simply let it go because we’ve already done the work. What the Universe is trying to actually tell us is that we’re doing good! Think about it, this time you recognized this as a trigger when maybe a year ago you wouldn’t have even noticed this was a pattern of yours and let it ignite a spiral that lasted for days! You are making so much progress and that should be celebrated.
You've Got to Keep Showing Up And Doing The Work
Finally, you got to keep showing up and doing the work. As I mentioned throughout the last few points, the healing journey is continuous. There is always more to heal and more to learn. But even when you get discouraged and feel that nothing will ever change, remind yourself of how far you’ve come. And use that sense of accomplishment and pride as fuel to keep showing up and doing the work. The healing journey won’t all be bad. There will be moments of rest, seeing your accomplishments, and pure joy. Keep fighting by showing up for yourself. Every day, choose to be you.
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